Speaker delivers upbeat measure to Chamber
A newly-retired Episcopal priest from Rochester delivered an upbeat and often humorous message on “Survivorship and Spirituality” and how it relates to being in the “people business” to members of the Dodge Center Chamber of Commerce last week at their annual meeting at the Dodge Center American Legion.
Father Nick Mezacapa, who retired last month after 31 years as the rector of Calvary Episcopal Church in Rochester, said he wanted to remind those in attendance of what needs to be done to be a success in the people business.
“There are givens that go with the people business,” he said.
Using stories, some well-known and others from his own experiences, he said that anyone who works with people must realize there will always be pressures and how one deals with them is important and also that there will always be conflict.
He began with a story about a donkey that fell into a well. The owner, unable to get the animal out came to the conclusion the best solution would be to put the animal out of its misery and bury it in the well. However, Mezacapa said, as the owner threw a shovel of dirt into the well, the donkey stomped it down. The animal did the same with a second shovel of dirt.
Realizing what was happening, the owner kept throwing shovels of dirt into the well which the donkey kept stomping down. Finally, hours later the donkey was able to walk out of the well.
“In the people business,” he said, “you have to shake it off and stomp it under foot or it will bury you.”
The key to conflict, he said, is to work through it and not be offended.
Conflict with another, he said, doesn’t mean the other person doesn’t like you.
In a conflict, he said, if an individual’s reaction seems grossly disproportionate to the situation it usually means that there is something else going on that is the real issue. By finding the real issue, he said, one can usually get to the root of the problem.
Mezacapa also offered his “short list” to live by.
First, he said, life is short and you only get one so befriend people and smile.
Remember to act on your second impulse, not your first.
Keep your life in balance, he said. Have other interests and be involved in other activities and organizations other than your business. That makes it easier if there is a problem in one area.
And finally, he said, laugh early and often.
Last week’s meeting was rescheduled from a week earlier when the evening events were cancelled because of bad weather.